Wednesday, February 21, 2018

And I changed my profession... (Part 3)

This part is going to be a little difficult for me. There was a time when many things were going on in my mind. Now looking back at that that turbulent time from a distance and putting it down rationally is a task for me. Also this part involves a bit about academic performance of my elder one. She does not like me talking about it. And she is one the readers of write ups. But I hope she will be able to understand my state of mind then.

So the thoughts of taking tuition started shaping up in my mind and my elder daughter's academic performance needed serious attention. She was studying in 7th standard then. Her school is a CBSE board affiliated school. As compared to SSC board, the volume of overall curriculum is more in CBSE. Also you need to understand the concepts thoroughly so as to attempt all the questions in the paper and get good marks. I, being a full time working professional, was not at all involved in her studies. Whatever was taught in the school was not sufficient for her to understand the concepts clearly. Because of some practical difficulties, it was not possible to send her for tuition.

And then we got her first term results and I was really worried. (This is an understatement!) I couple of years she was supposed to appear for her 10th standard exams. With such a weak foundation, how can she get good marks!

I knew my elder one was a bright student. Whenever I used to meet her teacher, the discussion always used to end up with the remark, "She has the potential, she just needs to perform."

As a mother I was overwhelmed with so many emotions. I already had a communication gap with her. (I will definitely write about this in a separate write-up.) Tough I was working on it, a guilt was there for not offering the support she needed from me. (I understand it not a deliberate act from my side, but I somehow failed to understand her needs.) It made me think if getting a promotion or a good salary hike in the office, at the cost of my daughter’s well being will definitely not make me happy.

I mean, I know just potential doesn’t lead a person to a successful life. And I just couldn’t imagine Shravanee lagging behind, just because she did not get the support she required in her crucial years.

I completely understand that getting good marks may not be an ultimate goal of life. But it can be a measure of a person’s confidence in self and positive outlook towards whatever he/she is supposed to do.

My elder one had many a times asked for my help in her studies. But due to my commitments at office and home, I was not able to help her. But her 7thstandard’s first term result was an eye opener for me. But I still was not sure if I will be able to sit with her after coming back from office. Hence I decided to start tuition for her class. So if I get even a single student other than my daughter, the commitment increases. Hence I put a message on her school’s whatsapp group that I would be conducting tuition. And I got a zero response. I was a little disheartened. Still I taught her a couple of topics for her next unit test. Her performance was improved a little. 

But after results of this unit test, I got a query from one of my elder one's friend’s mother regarding tuition!

To be continued…

Thursday, February 15, 2018

असंही व्हॅलेंटाइनचं सेलिब्रेशन...

उगवला प्रेमिकांच्या सोहळ्याचा दिन वाजत गाजत 

त्याच्या हृदयाची वाढली होती धडधड 
तिच्याही काळजात होत होतं लकलक
कारण तो होता ट्रेडमिलवर धावत 
आणि तिच्या लेकीच्या व्हॅनचा हॉर्न होता वाजत 

दिला तिने त्याला आवर्जून फूल 
पण होतं ते डब्यातलं कोबीचं फूल 
निघाला मग तो एकटाच लॉंग ड्राईव्हवर 
कारण होतं त्याचं ऑफिस नगर रोडवर 

पोहोचला एकदाचा तो ऑफिसला 
होतीच 'ती' तिथे सोबतीला 
सुरु झालं त्याचं आणि तिचं गूज 
म्हणला तो तिला दिवसभराची राणी माझी तूच 

तिचाही 'तो' होता घरात सोबतीला    
देईना तिला एकही क्षण फुरसतील 

कॉम्प्युटरची सिस्टीम होती त्याची 'शिरीन'
अन घरकामाचा रगाडा तिचा 'फरहाद'

मावळला दिनकर अन झाला त्यांचा कॅन्डल लाईट डिनर 
कारण होती MSEB ची कृपा त्यांच्यावर 

तो शिरला निद्रादेवीच्या कुशीत अन ती बसली लेकीचा प्रोजेक्ट करीत 
म्हणे उगवला होता प्रेमिकांच्या सोहळ्याचा दिन वाजत गाजत... 

Wednesday, February 7, 2018

And I changed my profession... (Part 2)

When I said that I came to the decision of 'Teaching' as an alternate profession, there was some background to it.

I completed BE (Electronics) in the year 1999. It was the time when we can say IT industry was in the full swing. Many of my friends, batch mates had opted for jobs in the software industry. I didn't want to do something just because everybody was doing it. As I wanted some time to decide on my career path, I joined one of the reputed engineering colleges in Pune as a visiting lecturer. During my stint as a lecturer for six months, I realized that I can teach and also like to do so.

Then I was just a fresh pass out without any actual experience. I did not like the idea of teaching engineering subjects without the knowledge of practical applications. I took a decision that I should have at least 5 - 6 years of industry experience and join teaching back. But once I joined the industry, the thought of coming back to 'Teaching' was put on the back burner (or may be it was taken off the burner)!  

So 'Teaching' was not an out of the blue idea.

Now the next question was to whom and what subjects to teach. I wanted my involvement with students, more than scoring the marks. Because I feel 'Teaching and Learning' is a process beyond just getting good marks.

To implement this ideology, I felt school going students were the best audience. 

To be continued...

Monday, February 5, 2018

And I changed my profession…(Part 1)

It was almost 3 years ago, I was having very well paid job fetching me a handsome salary every month, working with finest people in my field. And still a thought process started in the back of my mind – ‘shall I be continuing this further?’ and ‘if not, then what?’

Though I working in the domain I loved, on the latest technology which was in a way touching people’s lives, day by day the work was getting very demanding. And I expected it to be more in the future than what it was then. Somewhere it was upsetting the priorities that I had set. 

Then there was another thought about life after retirement. (Though it was quite at an early stage of life as I was not even nearing 40 then!) Being used to be engaged all the time, how to cope with being unoccupied. I couldn’t and still can’t imagine myself in front of the television, watching daily soaps. 

Apparently I am extrovert, but it’s quite difficult for me to mix with people. So the idea of going out and meeting and spending time with people was not a favorable one for me. Also I like to keep my time spent in the kitchen and in the household chores to the minimum. And the devil in my mind is quite restless and needs to be kept busy.

Then I started thinking about the options for my alternate profession. I wanted an option in which I can utilize my strengths, my experience and the wisdom whatsoever I have got.

So what are my strengths? Good communication skills, empathizing and mentoring people, my love for mathematics and science. And I thought what better profession suitable for me than ‘Teaching’ would be!

When the thought process for alternate profession started, one thing I was very much sure about “Working independently”. I did not want someone else to tell me what and how to do the things. So joining an institute as a faculty/ a teacher was a big no no.

And then the idea of conducting tuitions started shaping in my mind!

To be continued…

Saturday, February 3, 2018

दिसला गं बाई दिसला...

मागच्या आठवडयापासून व्हॉट्सअँप आणि फेसबुक वर मेसेज यायला लागले की ३१ चा दिवस (की रात्र?) खास आहे. आणि खासियत काय तर एकाच दिवशी (आता पुन्हा दिवशी की रात्री? फार बोर मारतेय ना!) blood moon, blue moon, super moon आणि चंद्रग्रहण असं सगळं दिसणार आहे. मला बापडीला प्रश्न पडला की पृथ्वीला तर एकच चंद्र, मग ह्या एकाच चंद्राचे एवढे प्रकार दिसणार कसे!

मग शाळेच्या मैत्रिणींच्या व्हॉट्सअँप ग्रुपवर पण चर्चासत्र सुरु झाले की ३१ जानेवारीचा चंद्र असा काय विशेष असणार आहे. एक मैत्रीण म्हणाली की कदाचित बर्फ पडणाऱ्या पाश्चिमात्य देशात तो निळा दिसत असणार आणि आपल्याकडे लाल. म्हणून मग एकाच वेळी blue noon आणि blood moon आहे असं म्हणत असणार. आणि मैत्रीण हेही म्हणाली की कदाचित म्हणूनच इंग्लिशमध्ये 'once in a blue moon' हा वाक्प्रचार प्रचलित असणार. म्हटलं हे तार्किकदृष्ट्या बरोबर वाटत आहे.

पण त्या देवाला ज्याने तो चंद्र आणि आपल्याला बनवलं, त्यालाच काळजी. (म्हणजे मी सश्रद्ध आहे हो. त्या देवामुळेच पृथ्वी, चंद्र आणि आपण सगळे आहोत ही श्रद्धा - कपूरांची नाही तर माझीच). आणि आमच्या ग्रुपमध्ये अत्यंत शास्त्रीय दृष्टिकोन ठेवून विचार करणारी एक मैत्रीण आहे तिने एका इंटरनेट वरील लिंकसह आम्हाला समजावले की नेमकं प्रकरण काय आहे. 

तेव्हा कळलं की एकाच महिन्यात दुसऱ्यांदा पौर्णिमा आली तर त्या चंद्राला blue moon म्हणायचे, ग्रहण काळात पृथ्वीचा प्रकाश परावर्तित होऊन चंद्र पडणार आणि चंद्र लालसर दिसणार म्हणून तो blood moon आणि पृथ्वीचा जास्त जवळ चंद्र आल्याने नेहमीपेक्षा थोडासा मोठा दिसणार म्हणून तो super moon. 

आता असा सुप्पर डुप्पर दिसणारा मून आहे म्हणल्यावर आपण बघायलाच पाहिजे ना! आणि परत आख्खे जग जे पाहणार आणि  व्हॉट्सअँप/फेसबुकवर ते पाहिल्याचं पोस्ट करणार ते आपण नाही पाहायचं असं कसं चालणार! आणि न पाहता मी पाहिलं, मी पाहिलं असं सांगायचा स्वभाव नाही हो माझा. त्यात मी २१व्या शतकातली आई! माझ्या मुलींना अश्या घटनेचा शास्त्रीय दृष्टिकोनातूल आनंद घेऊ देणं हे माझं आद्य कर्तव्य. त्यात आता शिक्षिकेची झूल नव्यानेच पांघरली आहे. तर माझ्या शिकवणीच्या मुलांना पण वाटलं पाहिजे ना की आपल्या 'बाई' कसल्या भारी आहेत; नुसतं पुस्तकातला अभ्यास शिकवत नाहीत तर आकाशात पण काय काय होताना दाखवतात. 

मग ठरलं तर, माझ्याकडे संध्याकाळी शिकवणीला येणारी मुलं आणि माझ्या मुली असं सगळ्यांना घेऊन गच्चीवर जायचं आणि सगळे मुनमून दाखवायचे. ठरल्याप्रमाणे आमची वरात साडेसहाच्या सुमारास गच्चीवर जाऊन पोहोचली. तर नुकताच सूर्यास्त झालेला असल्याने आकाशात अजून बराच उजेड होता. म्हटलं ह्यात तो चंद्र कसा दिसावा! मग काय वाट बघणं सुरु झाला. आणि अत्यंत कर्तव्यदक्ष शिक्षिकेच्या भूमिकेत जाऊन मुलांना चंद्राचे जे वेगवेगळे प्रकार दिसणार होते त्याची माहिती देऊ लागले. अजूनही चंद्राचा पत्ता नव्हता. तेवढ्यात मला माहीत असलेले मृग नक्षत्र आकाशात दिसले आणि मुलांना ते दाखवून टाकले. तेवढीच माझी कॉलर ताठ की आकाशदर्शनातले मलाही काही कळते. 

आणि तेवढ्यात माझ्या धाकटीने आकाशात एके ठिकाणी बोट दाखवून म्हटले की तो बहुतेक चंद्र आहे. डोळे फाडून फाडून पहिले तेव्हा कुठे पुण्यातील प्रदूषण आणि झगमगाटात कुठे तरी चंद्र अंधुकसा दिसला. मग त्याच्यावर बारीक लक्ष ठेवून बसलो (म्हणजे उभेच राहिलो). थोड्या वेळाने अजून अंधार झाला आणि पृथ्वीच्या सावलीने ग्रस्त blood moon दिसू लागला. 

तेव्हा असं झालं की "दिसला गं बाई दिसला... दिसला गं बाई दिसला... लाल चंद्र आभाळात दिसला गं बाई दिसला...."  आणि हुश्श केलं की आता मी फेसबुकवर टाकायला मोकळे, मी पण blue, blood, super moon पाहिला.